This is a story of a 27 year old celibate Guyanese man
Who are you?
I do not like talking much about myself. I like meeting with people and I get on well with most people, I only hate hypocrites and liars. I like to make people happy around me.
Why are you still a virgin?
I believe that we should wait until we get married before having sex. I am a Christian and it has been easy to follow the guidelines and beliefs. If I do "sin" and I do a lot of times, that's only because I'm not perfect. It also means that when I do, I think I know how to deal with it.
What is it like to be a virgin?
I have come close many times to having sex, I am attracted to women and I have had close encounters. I am not fond of masturbation. Some women seem to find it intriguing that I am still a virgin. I have no problems telling people and I have no shame about it.
What are your relationships like?
I have had relationships with girls, and I have had close relationships and strong feelings for other guys. My relationships with girls were good. I have no problem telling the guys that I love, that I love them. There can be love without any sexual feelings. There is one guy I met outside of Guyana. He is one of the most energetic, free-spirited, fun guys I've ever met. I have to hand it to the guy, very good looking as well. So, we had a great time together, and yes, we came very close to each other, physically, and that included sleeping together (we did not have sex). We remain great friends, and we do talk of our experience and I can't wait to meet him again. We did kiss, and that too on the lips. Kissing him was beautiful
Are you gay or bisexual?
I am not gay. I have never wanted to be and I have never felt that I am. Why can't two males have a warm,close relationship without it being a gay relationship? Why does it have to mean that I have homosexual desires? People need to come to realise that two men can share a very close relationship without letting intimacy come between. Society engenders the thought that if you do feel strongly about another man, that you are gay. It is not a view that I subscribe to.
So what are you?
I am who I am and I refuse to conform to anyone's thinking. Maybe I am not weak into letting people do that. Maybe I can do what I want and stand up to it and not make excuses for it. I wish people would stop making a big deal about people's sexuality. I respect people for who they are, not for whether they are man or woman, gay or straight.
What do you want for your future?
I hope to get married. I do not think I want children at this stage, but that could change. I also hope to get more involved in my religious work. I like Guyana and I think it has great potential. I do not plan to leave.